The Repay Cycle™ Origin Story

The Repay Cycle™ was created from the pattern that I saw my clients and my community of adults with immigrant parents (first and second generations including myself) experience.

Children with immigrant parents or those with a recent history of migration in their families, tend to want to give back to their family members. And sometimes they had little choice in this. 

Especially being adult children of immigrant parents, there is this pressure to do things for the family, and simultaneously a desire to do things for the family. Doing this so much overtime can contribute to feelings of burn out, not showing up at the best version of themselves. They usually end up not being able to do all the things they want to do for themselves AND their loved ones, leading them to think they have to cut ties or stop taking care of the family altogether.

But that’s not the only solution.

There are ways to decrease the intensity of being in The Repay Cycle™, reduce the burn out and self-sacrifice patterns so that you can live your life WHILE also caring for those you love.

Benefits to Knowing About The Repay Cycle™ 

Being aware of this cycle helps us move through it quicker. And of course setting boundaries and being aware of our boundaries help with moving through the cycle quicker and smoother. 

Having the knowledge of where you are at, and what’s going on will help prepare you for how to deal with the current phase, and allow you to do what you need of to take care of yourself and move forward. 

The Repay Cycle™ is not something that, my clients at least, tend to try to get out of because they're desire isn't to necessarily cut ties with their family, at least at this point. 

There may need to be more pause or more boundaries (which is what I love to talk about) with the family members or with certain activities or tasks, but their ultimate goal generally isn't to never talk to their family members again.

The Repay Cycle™ Phases

 There are four parts to The Repay Cycle™. The phase first is awareness, then repay, self sacrifice, mixed emotions, and then we go back to awareness.

Check out the video above for a quick video I made for my email community to learn more about the different phases and what they might look like in The Repay Cycle™.
You can start at 1:15 to get right into the phases.