This is the number one mistake that I see adults with immigrant parents making: they hardly share what they're thinking and feeling, and that’s when the feelings of hurt and pain resentment, and sadness build up.

Our capacity to hold and manage our emotions are like a cup - if we had an empty cup and we filled it with water (and the water represents our hurt feelings, sad, angry feelings that we don't share) the cup is eventually going to overflow with water. And when the cup gets overfilled, it's so much harder to clean, to manage, to take care of than if we had addressed each thing as it went into the cup.

That's why it's so important to share and tell people how we're feeling as we're feeling it. And for adults with immigrant parents, there's this level of cultural aspects and values and like saving face and not talking back, respect aspects that we have to like really deal with as young children and even as adults.

And now that we are adults, with all the skills and all the knowledge that is available to us, there's a way to empower ourselves with the most powerful tools that I’ve compiled for you inside Unshaken Confidence. With these skills, we can share what we want to share in a respectful and calm manner while validating our feelings and needs (even if no one else does).

This happens through reprogramming, recreating, and re-deciding what our beliefs about ourselves, our actions and ideas are. Also, how you talk to yourself. That is why I created Unshaken Confidence. I really want to empower you with all the tools to be able to speak your mind as you see fit in a way that works for you.